Your Modern Wedding Gift Etiquette Questions Answered

Navigating modern wedding gift etiquette can sometimes be confusing, leading to questions about what to give, how much to spend, and when to send the gift. 

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As we enter wedding season, let’s simplify the gift-giving process by addressing common wedding gift etiquette questions. Our goal is to assist you in making thoughtful and suitable gift choices for the couple.

How much should you spend on a wedding gift?

The amount you spend on a wedding gift varies based on factors like your relationship with the couple, budget, and local customs. Generally, covering your attendance costs, ranging from $50 to $150 per guest, is a good guideline. For close friends or family, consider a more substantial gift reflecting the occasion’s significance. Remember, the thought and effort behind the gift are more meaningful than its monetary value.

If you can’t make the wedding, do you need to send a gift?

Sending a gift, while not obligatory, is a thoughtful gesture if you can’t attend the wedding. It shows support and congratulations to the couple. Opt for direct delivery to their home or use online registries for convenience. Including a heartfelt card expresses your well-wishes and regrets for missing the event.

How long do you have to give a wedding gift?

Traditionally, wedding gifts are given before or on the wedding day. However, sending a gift within a few weeks post-wedding is acceptable if circumstances prevent earlier gifting. Timely delivery ensures the couple receives your gift promptly and acknowledges your thoughtfulness.

Should you choose from the registry?

Choosing from the couple’s wedding registry ensures your gift aligns with their preferences. Registries offer a curated selection, simplifying gift choices. While not mandatory, registry items guarantee your gift’s appreciation. For unique gifts, consider items complementing the registry or holding sentimental value.

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What if the registry items are outside of your budget?

If registry items exceed your budget, opt for thoughtful alternatives like personalized gifts or heartfelt cards. Focus on expressing joy and support rather than the gift’s value. For high-ticket items, consider group gifting with other guests to give a memorable gift without overspending.

Is it appropriate to give cash as a wedding gift?

Cash gifts are increasingly common and accepted in modern wedding etiquette. They offer couples flexibility in usage, such as honeymoon expenses or savings. Present cash gifts tastefully in personalized cards or envelopes, considering your relationship with the couple and your budget.

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Should you bring the gift to the wedding or send it beforehand?

Consider logistics and preference when deciding to bring the gift to the wedding or sending it beforehand. Portable gifts are suitable for in-person events, while large or fragile items are better delivered directly to the couple’s home. Communication with the couple or their designated coordinator ensures the best delivery approach.

What if you receive a wedding invitation but can’t attend or send a gift?

Promptly RSVP with regrets and well-wishes if unable to attend or send a gift. Express congratulations and explain reasons for absence or non-gifting. A thoughtful card or note conveys joy for the couple’s union, emphasizing sincere sentiments over material gifts.

In Conclusion

Understanding wedding gift etiquette simplifies the gift-giving process. Focus on thoughtfulness, respect, and celebration of the couple’s love when making gift choices. We hope this guide answers your wedding gift etiquette questions, aiding you in making informed and thoughtful contributions to the celebration’s joy and happiness.

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